Advice

Before hubby and I married, we met with several older couples at the church we were attending. We wanted a "seasoned" perspective and good Godly advice.

One of the best pieces of advice we received was this: at the end of the first year of marriage (or the 34th year!), both of us should have a hole in our bottom lip from biting it when we want to say something that's best left unsaid.

We are not always good at this (me, mostly), but it has helped a great deal in our marriage. We have seen too many couples tear each other down with their words. You can always apologize and ask forgiveness, but can never take back the hurtful things you said.

"Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark." ~James 3:5

"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." ~Ephesians 4:29