Wednesday, August 23, 2006


Before hubby and I married, we met with several older couples at the church we were attending. We wanted a "seasoned" perspective and good Godly advice.

One of the best pieces of advice we received was this: at the end of the first year of marriage (or the 34th year!), both of us should have a hole in our bottom lip from biting it when we want to say something that's best left unsaid.

We are not always good at this (me, mostly), but it has helped a great deal in our marriage. We have seen too many couples tear each other down with their words. You can always apologize and ask forgiveness, but can never take back the hurtful things you said.

"Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark." ~James 3:5

"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." ~Ephesians 4:29


Heather Smith said...

Amen, God has been trying to teach me to watch my words with others more and more lately!

Melissa said...

Why is it we think we can say things to our hubbies & kids that we would NEVER say to even close friends? We forget that we need to show them MORE love than everyone else...not use our closeness as an excuse to "just be our ugly old selves."

Thanks for the reminder, Jenn!

Wendy said...

What great advice! Thanks for sharing. It can be hard to tame that tongue, but important.

GiBee said...

Amen! Great advice!

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briar_rose_01 said...

Thanks for the reminder, Jenn. It's sad how quickly I forget to guard my tounge with John. I think it's even harder because I'm so free to be myself with him - whatever I think goes straight out my mouth. I'd try to protect John from anyone else's hurtful words, so I should be extra protective of mine.

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